Friday, September 19, 2014

Giving too much

I was completely surprised on Thursday night to become the recipient of the Presidential Volunteer Award.  This is for having completed 400 hours of volunteer time with Girl Scouts.
My husband raised a complaint the other day that I was spending to much time volunteering.  I have to be honest that he probably has a point.  It's more then just failing to say no.  It's more then there is need.  There is always need.  
Service is something that runs very deep in me.  Maybe a little to deep.  I have to admit that I like doing all of it.  I like the look on people's faces when they hear what I do.  You might call it an addiction.  
I've tried to scale back.  In some areas, I have succeed.  I stopped doing the Cookie Area Director and the Fall Sale Service Unit Director.  In their places, i have added teaching catechism and directing the children's choir.  Still these are good changes.  I feel the need to give to my church family while still honoring the commitment I made to my scouts. 
But what about our family?  This is the question my husband raises.  That is a hard one to answer.  Our children play a large part in the things I do, but he stays largely on the outside.  And I depend on him staying on the outside.  The things he does for our family enable my volunteering.
So where does it stop? I just don't know.  I'm re-structuring my personal time (like lunch hours) because I've already made the commitments.  Next year, who knows?  Already my daughter is following in my footsteps.  I'd better not lead her to the edge.

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Prairie Skirts and Sweatpants

I've neglected this blog. Truth be told, I am always a better writer when I have something to procrastinate from. Having started this blog with Theresa and Rosalie, I found that I could sit down, think, "Oh, I should write a little something for the Wise Monkeys," and then proceed, quite happily, to work on something else altogether.
So matters stood until last night as I was almost falling asleep. As I was drifting off, thinking of random, sundry, and unrelated things, I sleepily thought, "I should write an encomium on Laura Ingalls Wilder's Little House books."
This was not completely out of the blue, the series had come up earlier in the day when I found myself quoting Pa's line about the neighbor's axe ringing in the woods as a symbol of what it means to be an independent American.
Those of you who knew me as a child can vouch for my steadfast love for the series. I spent my childhood roaming the sage-covered hill wearing long skirts and the sweatpants which Mom had convinced me looked like pantaloons. I must say that my Mother had some rhetorical skills to convince me that sweatpants look like pantaloons because they don't - particularly dark purple or navy sweatpants. It was the nineties, however, and perhaps I cared more for warmth than I would have admitted at the time.

In reading the Little House books, starting around eight and a half, I was excited by the life that Laura presented. Making maple syrup in the big woods, discovering Indian beads on the prairie, living in a dugout, moving to South Dakota and facing the Long Winter, Laura traced her story on paper. She wrote simply, almost as if she were describing the experiences once again to Mary, her blind sister.
As an adult, I can read it without nostalgia or boredom. Yes, it is a simple tale, but it is a true tale, a story that actually happened. When I read about the long winter, I get hungry, I feel cold, I feel that there is a storm outside threatening my family. Sometimes I have to put the book down, look out the window at the sun, find a snack, or turn on the heat, to reassure myself that I am not facing a winter filled with blizzard following blizzard, while the trains cannot make it through to bring food to the starving townspeople.
When Laura became Mary's eyes, she learned to pay attention to little things, to note what color the flowers were, to describe beautiful horses with their manes blowing in the wind, to speak of the sunsets and the birds flying south in the fall. She developed the attention that is necessary to be a good writer. Out of that grew her ability to catch the mood of a moment. In the book, By the Shores of Silver Lake, Laura describes exploring the surveyors' house where the family is to spend the winter. "The largeness of the house seemed to wait and listen. It seemed to know that Laura was there, but it had not made up its mind about her. It would wait and see."
When I was growing up, Dad would laugh at me sometimes for reading the Little House books, for which he had a colorful nickname (Dad was always clever with puns and would use them unsparingly), but he would tell me that when I was grown up, I could write a story, as Laura did, telling of my childhood. Deep down in my heart, I always believed that I would, and hopefully one day I will. If I ever do, it will be in large part because Dad told me that I could be such a writer.
I hope that this post will inspire some of you to dust off the series and read them again or read them to your children. They will be worth your while.